setabnamron

I like drinking tea alone, and reading alone.

I like riding the bus alone, and walking home alone.

It gives me time to think, and set my mind free.

I like eating alone, and listening to music alone.

But when I see a mother with her child;

A girl with her lover;

Or a friend laughing with their best friend;

I realize that even though I like being alone

I don’t fancy being lonely.

atlxolotl

nowhere—-kid:

I dislike the term ‘people of color’ (POC) so much.

Because of the way it is used here on Tumblr: they throw it around all the time, for everything. Also, it kinda irks me how it works, like anyone non-white is considered a POC, what ‘unites’ people is being non-white. Guess what, it centres in whiteness, being or not being white, which seems a bit counter-productive, you’re not talking about white people, you are talking about people who are not-white which still seems to focus the attention in (non-) whiteness!.

Centering in (not) being white still erases all the differences between those non-white people (thank you very much!). It works like a monolithic, imo, and that’s kinda annoying/offensive. Some of the people who use that term all the time don’t care if you’ve already told them your nationality or race or anything else, they’re still gonna call you a POC because you’re not white. Whether you’re from India, Mexico, Zimbabwe, Cuba, China, South Africa, The Philippines, Ghana, Pakistan, Venezuela, etc, etc, etc. If in their book you’re not white, they throw you into the POC box (and spliting up in ‘POC’ and ‘white’ still gives being white a lot of importance), no matter your beliefs or your culture or language or anything. And you know, there are differences, and it bothers me how they are erased just like anything.

I KNOW there is this white ‘supremacy’ problem and when you want to discuss it, I guess it’s easier to say white/POC so you don’t overcomplicate things, but it’s not okay to use it so lightly all the time (in my opinion). I believe that term is… necessary while talking about, let’s say, how white is seen as the default in media. But again, it annoys me how they use it for everything in this site. 

The way social justice issues are talked about in this site is so US-centric. The problems (I feel that’s not the right word but something along those lines) faced in The United States are not the same faced in all the world, y’know. The experiences of a black person in the UK aren’t the same of a black person is the US, not all black people are African American. Get a wider view. And everything here is centered to the US, even people who are not and do not live in the US tend to center in whatever is going on there. (And this is off the topic but I guess it kinda works as an example, I see a lot of resources for transgender* people here on Tumblr, helplines, giveaways and that sorta stuff and 9/10 times they’re just for people on the States, sometimes for the UK or Australia, but it’s almost always the US, and people from other parts of the world deserve help as well but get almost none, and I feel so left out, do people outside of the US don’t exist? don’t do they matter or?).  

 I’ve seen people here almost admire some other people just because they consider them ‘POC’. I saw some time ago a post about Graciela Iturbide (for those who don’t know who she is, she’s a Mexican photographer) and in the description of the post it was mentioned several times how she was a ‘POC’/WOC photographer and it was so cool that she was a photographer who was also a ‘POC’. Fucking great, she is a ‘POC’ photographer, that’s cool, but will you please center in Graciela Iturbide being Graciela Iturbide and her amazing work? And not center in her for being a ‘POC’? That post gave me the vibe as if they did that post just because she was a POC, and not because they geninuely liked her work. 

Also, with this POC thing. It seems like some Tumblr users think POC are inherently ‘good’ or something like that, and that ‘POC’ can’t discriminate or something. Some ‘POC’ have their differences, and I mean not just that ‘POC’ aren’t a monolithic (which is obvious) but that there are indeed differences among non-white people themselves (be it religion, nationality…). Prejudices, resentment, and that sort of things. Just like there are resenments among different groups of white people. Heck, inside of a same country there are sometimes that sort of differences. Some ‘POC’ discriminate against some other ‘POC’, so not everything revolves among white people and I believe the term POC (which centers in non-whiteness -I’m sorry I’m repeating myself so much-) is not of use in that sort of cases.  

And even if you’re talking about discrmination from white people towards ‘POC’ the discrimination a certain group of ‘POC’  receives is not the same as the one other group gets, if they do at all.

And who draws the line between white and ‘POC’? Who decides who gets to be ‘POC’ and who doesn’t? What is it that makes a ‘POC’ a POC? Is it skin tone alone? It’s kind of.. subjective, I don’t know.

Also, nations aren’t a monolithic either, neither are geographical regions. Countries, races, religions, etnichties… aren’t the same, (I think) you cant compare one with another as if they were the same. For example, Mexico is a country and Mexican is a nationality, it makes no sense to say/compare “her mother is white and her father is Mexican” or “their son is Half Mexican, half Jewish”. If we start talking about race, Mexicans aren’t just indigenous people (which aren’t just one either, they’re different indigenous cultures), there are Afromexicans, white mexicans, Asian Mexicans… although most of the population is mestizo/mixed of the Native people and Spanish.

And Latin@ isn’t a race either, nor is LA a country.. Latin America is a geographical region in which Romance languages are spoken the most. It includes many countries and cultures and indigenous groups with different traditions, etc, etc. I love my Latin American brothers and sisters, don’t get me wrong, but Latin America is diverse and lumping us all in the same category/like the same thing doesn’t seem right to me, ignoring all the cultural richness that every country has to offer within itself and assuming LA to be all the same seems… just not right . Neither assuming that the history of Mexico is the same as the one from Colombia or just assuming than a Chilean is supposed to know what’s going on in Bolivia.

Latin American aren’t just indigenous people, either. I don’t think you can equal being Latin American with being ‘POC’ or something (now, if you’re specifically talking about Native people from the Latin American region, that’s another thing). For example, most of the population in Argentina is of Italian and Spanish descent: 79% according to Wikipedia, while only 18% of Ameridian/native descent and 4.3% African, that 79%  of Argentinians are not considered Latin American?

I don’t like to be thrown into the Latin@ box as if Latin American people were the same. If I tell you my name and tell you I’m Mexican, and you still choose to refer to me as ‘Latin@’ over anything else I’m gonna be a bit upset, not because I think being Latin American is ~bad~ or anything, I AM Latin American, I am proud of being one, but I am not just Latin American, I don’t want you to ignore everything else I am and simply call me a Latin@ because it’s simplier or whatever.

As for me, I know I am descent of Indigenous mexican (not sure which culture, I have still to research my heritage), Spanish and French, I have no contact with either of them, what am I considered? (What is my race? my race is mixed, I guess, although I personally don’t care about which race I am). I choose to call myself a Mexican, I was born here, I have been surrounded with Mexican traditions all my life, what happens here affects me, etc. I am Mexican.

I think the term POC may be right/useful in certain situations, I do not think it’s “bad”, I don’t want it to disappear or whatever. But the way it is used (at least) here on Tumblr, all the time/for everything, seems to make more harm than good, in my opinion. 

(Also, an honest question: Who came up with the term POC? How? It sounds very similar to colored people which if I’m not mistaken is deemed offensive.) 

In summary, i do not like the way the term People Of Color is used on Tumblr because it puts non-white like a monolithic which is, well, wrong, and it focuses in (non) whiteness (which seems a bit ironic and contradictory). Also, nations, races, religions, etnicithies, etc., aren’t the same (neither are discriminations based on them the same, naturally)  and you can’t compare one with another.

Alright, that’s my opinion, I hope it wasn’t offensive or anything, if so, please tell me why/which part. (And please tell me if there’s a grammar mistake too so I can correc it).

I’d like to know other points of view and if you agree or disagree I’d like to listen to you, too. Thanks.

loveyourchaos

actionstarpatrickswayze:

psa

if you tell a depressed person that they have no reason to be depressed because of what they have and that other people would kill to be in their position

it generally makes them feel guilty and worse about themselves

because it reinforces the notion that their pain is not real or valid

because it all goes back to “this is your fault”

when really it isn’t

because depression is not about faults or circumstances or this idea of who gets to feel bad over who

there is a marked difference between depression and being depressed, and it’s high time people start learning

atlxolotl

realbodyrevolution:

Men’s Body Image & the Drive for Muscularity

Notes from a Lecture by Dr. Don McCreary

History:

  • back in 1995 it was believed that men were satisfied with their bodies but this belief was based on men scoring low on surveys about thinness
  • not surprisingly, men place less emphasis on thinness and traditional dieting
  • realization was made that the surveys were asking the wrong questions!

Male Ideal

  • men would rather be big then small & the ideal is muscular
  • the drive for muscularity – internalized beliefs that muscular is ideal and the drive to achieve it
  • self-report studies show that men with average body sizes want to gain 33 lbs of muscle
  • men believe their size + 33 lbs of muscle is what women want
  • the reality is that women’s ideal is very close to men’s average body size
  • side note: height is also a major component of male body image and studies consistently show that when men are asked to report their height they reported significantly higher than they were

Media’s Role

  • cultivation hypothesis – the more media saturation of certain types of images (ie. Muscular men or thin women) the more likely people are to believe it as reality and internalize it as ideal
  • for example, studies of shut-ins show that they believe society to be much more dangerous than reality and this misconception comes from spending too much time watching the news
  • action figures have become hyper-muscular over the past 25 years, a trend that is particularly present in G. I. Joe and superhero figures like Batman and Superman
  • if you take G. I. Joe’s stats and translate them to real life, no competitive weight lifter could achieve the muscle size of G.I. Joe
  • video gaming magazines also leads to increase in the drive for muscularity as images are hulkingly muscular but this increase only occurs in white males
  • studies of advertising show that frequent exposure to ads with higher muscle mass led to higher levels of muscle dissatisfaction (video has shown larger impact than still images)
  • what is interesting is that if men are shown images of objectified women it makes them want to be more muscular and increases levels of hostility and anxiety

Muscle Dysmorphia

  • muscle dysmorphia is a growing problem and is a component of Body Dysmorphia Disorder
  • BDD in women manifests with weight but with men it manifests in one of three areas: muscles, lack of hair and penis size
  • 28-68% of average weight men believe they are underweight
  • underweight men have similar psychological instabilities as women who are overweight
  • surprisingly, overweight men are more psychologically sound and feel more attractive

Problemas que solo yo tengo: los princesos.

Estoy cansado de esto en demasiadas formas.

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Si algo odio del idioma inglés es la limitación que tiene con el verbo “to be”, ya que engloba los verbos “ser” y “estar”.

Al decir “I am sad" puedo querer decir "estoy triste" y "soy triste". 

Cuando alguien dice “estoy triste" implica que ayer no lo estaba, pero en el presente lo está y en un futuro cercano lo dejará de estar. Pero es diferente para "soy triste”. Suena algo raro raro, pero hace de la tristeza algo más abstracto. Habla de un diferente estado en el que en el pasado ya me encontraba triste, en el presente sigo siendo así y no sé si en algún punto del futuro lo dejaré de estar.

Puede que sea más fácil para mí hablar de mis sentimientos en un idioma diferente a mi lengua materna, pero no siempre obtengo el resultado esperado. No quiero vender la idea de que algún idioma sea mejor que otro, pero a lo largo de mi perra vida aprendí que un te quiero no es lo mismo que un te amo y un te echo de menos es diferente a un te extraño.

setabnamron
crownmalone:

pixierose1:

pussyharvest:

danielmcbatman:

cougarmeat:

Men feel the pressures of society just as much as women. Through my internet searches I have come across nothing that encourages body positivity in men. This needs to change.

Please, tell me of the struggles this dude faces as a white male. I’m really interested in hearing about the alternate reality that he inhabits. 

WHAT A DUMBASS POST
CRY HARDER WHITE BOY

Booohooooo who says all girls wanna look like barbie dipshit

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Are you guys honestly saying that just because he’s a man and white? Are you fucking kidding me? You all do realize what you’re technically saying right? You’re pretty much saying that that this guy has no right to be sad because there are people out there who have it worse. I thought that was one of the main things you never tell a person with depression, so why are any of you saying that here?
Seriously, what world do you guys live in? What if a white man abused as a child? What if they were told that they were not good enough by their family and and people around him? Do you think every white guy lives a life where everybody loves them, nobody thinks they’re ugly and they get everything they want by simply asking for it once? You have to be a complete fool to believe that.
Are you trying to tell me that a white person can’t be depressed because he is “privileged over everybody else”? Let me put it to you like this: Let’s say a white man loses his job, is insecure about his body (because maybe he’s not very tall or muscular, which is what society today tells a man he should look like), and has no friends. Now let’s say you have a successful black business woman who makes a lot of money, has a great social life, but also has depression. Which one of these two people has more right to be depressed? The answer: NEITHER!!!! Because depression is not always about how successful you are life or what you have. Depression is feeling that you’re not a good enough person no matter who you are and how hard you try.
All you that contributed to the above commentary should be ashamed of yourselves. There are people out there, include white boys, who hate themselves because of their looks. They will self harm just like anybody else with self hate issues, but none of you care. All you care about is their gender and skin color. I’d hate to see what any of you would say if ever met a cutter that happened to be a white guy. What would you say when if showed you his scars? Would you laugh in his face? What if he told you that he attempted suicide? Would you roll your eyes at him?
None of you are any better than those racist and sexist people you claim to hate so much. You don’t want equality. You want anybody that shares physical similarities with “the oppressor” to feel like shit. You want people who to be looked down upon because of the their race and gender; two things they have no control over. How is that any better than someone belittling a black/hispanic/asian/etc person because of a broad and untrue generalization?
I’ve come to realize this important fact: Tumblr isn’t the safe haven for logical people that so many people want to claim it is. It’s full immature, hypocritical , and ignorant people just like any other website. I don’t care if I lose followers because of this. This has to stop.

crownmalone:

pixierose1:

pussyharvest:

danielmcbatman:

cougarmeat:

Men feel the pressures of society just as much as women. Through my internet searches I have come across nothing that encourages body positivity in men. This needs to change.

Please, tell me of the struggles this dude faces as a white male. I’m really interested in hearing about the alternate reality that he inhabits. 

WHAT A DUMBASS POST

CRY HARDER WHITE BOY

Booohooooo who says all girls wanna look like barbie dipshit

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Are you guys honestly saying that just because he’s a man and white? Are you fucking kidding me? You all do realize what you’re technically saying right? You’re pretty much saying that that this guy has no right to be sad because there are people out there who have it worse. I thought that was one of the main things you never tell a person with depression, so why are any of you saying that here?

Seriously, what world do you guys live in? What if a white man abused as a child? What if they were told that they were not good enough by their family and and people around him? Do you think every white guy lives a life where everybody loves them, nobody thinks they’re ugly and they get everything they want by simply asking for it once? You have to be a complete fool to believe that.

Are you trying to tell me that a white person can’t be depressed because he is “privileged over everybody else”? Let me put it to you like this: Let’s say a white man loses his job, is insecure about his body (because maybe he’s not very tall or muscular, which is what society today tells a man he should look like), and has no friends. Now let’s say you have a successful black business woman who makes a lot of money, has a great social life, but also has depression. Which one of these two people has more right to be depressed? The answer: NEITHER!!!! Because depression is not always about how successful you are life or what you have. Depression is feeling that you’re not a good enough person no matter who you are and how hard you try.

All you that contributed to the above commentary should be ashamed of yourselves. There are people out there, include white boys, who hate themselves because of their looks. They will self harm just like anybody else with self hate issues, but none of you care. All you care about is their gender and skin color. I’d hate to see what any of you would say if ever met a cutter that happened to be a white guy. What would you say when if showed you his scars? Would you laugh in his face? What if he told you that he attempted suicide? Would you roll your eyes at him?

None of you are any better than those racist and sexist people you claim to hate so much. You don’t want equality. You want anybody that shares physical similarities with “the oppressor” to feel like shit. You want people who to be looked down upon because of the their race and gender; two things they have no control over. How is that any better than someone belittling a black/hispanic/asian/etc person because of a broad and untrue generalization?

I’ve come to realize this important fact: Tumblr isn’t the safe haven for logical people that so many people want to claim it is. It’s full immature, hypocritical , and ignorant people just like any other website. I don’t care if I lose followers because of this. This has to stop.

setabnamron
michiamocristina:

An 87 Year Old College Student Named Rose The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know.  I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me  with a smile that lit up her entire being.  She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.  “Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked. She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…” “No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age. “I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me. After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.We became instant friends. Every day for the  next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine”  as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.  Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and  she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.  At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was  introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell  you what I know.” As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop  playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day.  You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!There is a huge difference between growing  older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.  Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change.  Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those  with regrets.” She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.” She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died  peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s  never too late to be all you can possibly be .When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they’ll really enjoy it! These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE. REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS  OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.

michiamocristina:

An 87 Year Old College Student Named Rose

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know.
I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me
with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.

“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.

She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…”

“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.We became instant friends. Every day for the
next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine”
as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and
she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was
introduced and stepped up to the podium.

As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell
you what I know.”

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop
playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day.

You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!There is a huge difference between growing
older and growing up.

If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.

If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.

Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change.
Have no regrets.

The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those
with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.”

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died
peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s
never too late to be all you can possibly be .When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they’ll really enjoy it!

These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS
OPTIONAL.

We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.